COMPASSION

Empathy Without the Pain – A Better Way to Help Others (and Yourself)

March 13, 2026

Empathy sucks.

Now before you throw something at me, I’m not talking about kindness. I’m not talking about caring. I’m talking about absorbing other people’s pain as if it’s your responsibility to carry it.

Because that? That drains you.

And it doesn’t actually help them.

The Hidden Cost of Empathy

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#476 Empathy – A Way That Works Without The Pain

March 13, 2026

Discover why empathy can drain you and how compassion and self-empathy help you support others without absorbing their pain.

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FMQ 467 Let’s Turn On Our Sensor

October 23, 2024

We’re going to explore how activating your kindness sensor can ripple out to create real, meaningful change. Not just for you, but for those around you too. Here’s what we’ll cover:

How a single act of kindness can shift your mood, energy, and the lives of others.
The idea of “paying it forward” and why kindness, like a ripple, spreads far beyond the initial act.
The surprising power of acknowledging kindness in others—sometimes that’s all it takes to brighten someone’s day.

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#140 Finding compassion below the surface

July 31, 2019

I hope this will provoke some interesting thoughts and understanding of your and others intentions below the surface of what you or they do

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FMQ 181 Empathy no way – well maybe this way

August 4, 2018

I have always said I don’t do empathy, I didn’t think I did empathy with my clients.
I love compassion and then I had a thought could I do both in a way that works and makes me feel light? and the answer was YES

listen for a spell and I’ll explain.

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