I Know What I Want But I Don’t Know How to Get It
So many people have difficulty knowing what they want because of limiting beliefs that try to protect them from failure and that’s another episode in itself. But when we get that idea, that impulse, and that excitement of knowing what we want we get overwhelmed and confused. Have you experienced that too?
And that overwhelm and confusion leads to giving up, and if we’re not careful can generalize into “I can’t do this”, and becomes a habit of not doing and disappointment.
So how does this happen?
I’ll tell you – You get the idea and the buzz, and you start thinking “How do I make this happen?” “But I don’t know how” as you begin to think of everything including all that could go wrong and those limiting beliefs begin to kick in.
And we give up worrying about the HOW.
I’m here to share STOP IT! Before you even contemplate the ‘how‘ we park it and begin to think of the WHY.
If we find out how important this is to us and the effects it will have in our lives when we have achieved and brought about a successful conclusion the ‘how’s’ will begin to fall into place, especially with the process I share in this episode.
And the thing is it is not a complicated process, it’s simple and easy to execute if you have the right motivation – Your WHY! You find that “The Will to do whatever it takes” attitude of a winner’s mindset.
That being said now you have to press play and make notes and do the process. Knowing without the doing is the BS of those who don’t start and give excuses and you’re not like that.
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Shine brightly
Paul
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Unplugged with Paul Clough is a personal development podcast
Speaker A: Hey, have you ever had that feeling.
Speaker B: I know what ah, I want, but I don’t know the how?
Speaker A: I got to find the how how.
Speaker B: Got to find the how. And I’m going to tell you, you don’t need to know the how. The how will find themselves in a moment if you listen to this.
Speaker A: Because we need to find something else first. And then when we do, we will banish overwhelm. We will banish vanish confusion and we’ll really and we’ll banish vanish giving up because we’ll start to achieve the things.
Speaker B: That are important to us.
Speaker A: And when they are, you’re going to have a great life. Have a listen after this.
Speaker C: Hey, welcome. Welcome to the personal development.
Speaker D: Unplugged.
Speaker A: podcast.
Speaker C: So pleased you’re here. Your time is valuable and precious. So what I would like to do is fill that time that you share with me with the most shiny golden nuggets to help improve your life, to get your goals, your wishes, your dreams to come to fruition quicker, bigger, better than you could ever imagine. Using your imagination, using hypnosis, using NLP neurolinguistic programming, all of that. Using all things of the mind, no brain hacks, but real, solid processes to deconstruct what people do to become great. And then find the processes that we can install that in ourselves to support you in your dreams, and get.
Speaker B: What you really want in life.
Speaker A: Anyway.
Speaker B: Who am I?
Speaker C: I’m Paul.
Speaker A: Paul Clough.
Speaker C: And just going to have conversations with you in this podcast and get you thinking, but also share those processes because we’re going to have so much fun.
Speaker A: That’s it.
Speaker C: We’re going to have fun for a change because we can sit down for a spell and have more fun than we can stand creating the world we.
Speaker B: Want to live in and be the.
Speaker C: Person we want to be in that world. The only limitation the only limitation is your imagination. And you got bucket loads, by the way.
Speaker A: Bucket loads. Have a listen. You really must.
Speaker E: This is personal development. Unplugged with Paul Clough. In simplicity, there is genius.
Speaker F: In simplicity there is genius.
Sometimes we get overwhelmed trying to figure out what we really want
Speaker G: Hey, my friends, welcome back to a longer podcast. And, well, the title of this podcast.
Speaker B: Is I Know What I Want but.
Speaker G: I Don’t Know How.
Speaker F: Don’t know how to get there. I think we’ve all been there, haven’t we? Knowing what we really want, but we.
Speaker G: Really get stuck because we don’t know how.
Speaker F: How I’m going to get it, I.
Speaker G: Don’T know, because I’ve never done it before. Or have I? But that’s another thing.
Speaker F: We’ll talk about that, but this is.
Speaker G: A little new, maybe. And, because we concentrate on not.
Speaker F: Knowing the how can be really overwhelming, can’t it?
Speaker B: Because we start making pictures of us failing, I guess. And then those limiting beliefs come along, I’m not good enough, I’m an imposter.
Speaker G: And all that rubbish that comes along.
Speaker B: Trying to protect us from making an.
Speaker G: Utter fool of ourselves. That’s one way of doing it. Maybe maybe the reason for having that overwhelm. But sometimes it’s just so bloody confusing. And I, know I always say confusion is a forerunner of clarity.
Speaker A: But if it gets so confusing, so.
Speaker F: Overwhelming, what tends to happen?
Speaker G: Can you remember times in the past.
Speaker B: When you really wanted to do something?
Speaker G: And it got so confusing, so overwhelming.
Speaker F: So daunting, you couldn’t see a successful finish, an ending.
Speaker G: And, we just ended up getting more confused, more overwhelmed. And eventually we say, sonic going to give up. And I can look back in my.
Speaker F: Life and the things that could have.
Speaker G: Done, should have done all those couldas.
Speaker F: And shoulders, but I didn’t.
Speaker G: And I know this is a big.
Speaker B: Generalization say that we just give up.
Speaker G: Because we get overwhelming.
Speaker B: Looking for the how. Looking for the how am I going to do this? What are the steps?
Speaker F: How can I do it? But you see, although it’s a big.
Speaker A: Generalization, this process can generalize too.
Speaker G: The process of overwhelm confusing because we’re.
Speaker F: Actually not using the right process.
Speaker G: We’re letting this process of overwhelm and confusion override everything. And it generalizes then into maybe not starting any other things that we’re not quite sure of. Well, couldn’t do it before, why would I do it again?
Speaker F: And that’s BS, you know, because those.
Speaker G: Ideas, those things that you want to.
Speaker F: Do could be the thing, could be your thing, could be the thing that lights your passion.
Speaker G: Could be the thing that makes well, allows the world to see you who you really are.
Speaker F: And the thing is, with everything new.
Speaker G: We don’t really know the how. And we have to learn the steps.
Speaker F: Some people say you don’t need to.
Speaker A: See the stop of the top of stop of the stairs, the top of.
Speaker F: The stairs to see where you’re going.
Speaker G: You just need to know what the first step is going to get there. Or it’s a little bit like going on a journey. You just have to keep looking a.
Speaker F: Little way in front, making it easy.
Speaker G: Because if things are, not easy easy, but you get a little success.
Speaker F: Out of it, then that success builds.
Speaker G: But the thing is, to do that what would make us motivated.
Speaker F: Motivated to actually go through, that.
Speaker G: Little bit of confusion, go through that overwhelm.
Speaker F: And the thing is.
Speaker G: That’S the why, finding our bloody why. And that’s been really made popular, of late, finding our why. And it’s quite true, but it’s not new. It’s been made I say made popular, but it’s so true.
Speaker F: I can remember years ago when I.
Speaker B: Was even in business and it was.
Speaker G: Always said, if you’re going to do a presentation, and in trainings, if you’re going to tell, we’re going to talk about a new process, we always started with the why.
Speaker A: Why is this important to you?
Speaker G: What will it allow you to do? If I’m putting a pitch, why is the thing I’m going to talk to.
Speaker A: You about so important to you?
Speaker G: How it fulfills your needs and your values? Because when something feels important to us, it seems to meet our values, our needs, our wants. It seems to be the right thing.
Speaker F: It resonates with us, then we go for it.
Speaker G: You see, when it meets your values, which is the things that are important.
Speaker F: To us and those values sometimes comes.
Speaker B: Out into what we want and what.
Speaker F: We need, we find motivation because the.
Speaker A: Motivation is that value.
Speaker G: Why is something important to us? Because if it’s not important to us, maybe that’s sometimes we just give up.
Speaker B: But we need to find whether it’s.
Speaker G: Important to us first.
Speaker F: Find our why.
Find your why. Seems common sense, doesn’t it
Speaker B: Because when we find the why and.
Speaker G: It becomes so motivating, guarantee you the hows will fall in place.
Speaker F: But the thing is that sounds so wonderful.
Speaker G: Find your why. Find your why. Seems common sense, doesn’t it? But it’s the only thing that isn’t really common sometimes in this world, common sense. And it is staring us in plain sight. Hiding in plain sight. So what I want you to do.
Speaker B: Because we’re going to go through this.
Speaker A: I never let you or leave you hanging on.
Speaker B: Seems a good idea, Paul, but you didn’t tell me how.
Speaker A: Because there’s so many other people do that.
Speaker F: We don’t do that here.
Speaker D: I don’t do that here.
Speaker G: So what I want to say to.
Speaker F: You is put that need for knowing.
Speaker G: The how, the how I’m going to do this.
Speaker B: Put it one side. Just remember, we come back to it.
Speaker G: Obviously, because we’re going to need to find the hows.
Speaker B: Don’t get me wrong, we don’t ignore.
Speaker F: Them, but we want to just park.
Speaker B: It for a minute.
Speaker G: So we’re just going to put it over there. Just put it over there. You know it’s there, you’re in control.
Speaker F: We just parked it for a little while. And I want to find the why because when we do that how will.
Speaker G: unpark itself and they’ll just follow.
So what I want to do, well, let’s do do something now because it’s simple
Speaker F: So what I want to do, well, let’s do do something now because it’s.
Speaker A: So much better to not just to talk about things.
Speaker B: You got to experience it sometimes.
Speaker G: So hopefully you’ve got a little bit.
Speaker B: Of time that you won’t be disturbed.
Speaker G: I’m not going to do hypnosis, promise you that. Might be a little bit you’re going.
Speaker A: Inside to do something.
Speaker G: So you might get into a little.
Speaker B: Bit of an altered state, which is.
Speaker A: What you do when you go inside.
Speaker G: I guess, because you begin to focus. And that’s what I want you to do. Focus on something for me. So if you have got anything that needs doing, needs your attention, driving and working that machinery and all that stuff, please just notice bookmark where we are. If you want to have a quick listen, you can do but don’t do the process.
Speaker D: But come back to it.
Speaker G: Come back to it when you got time. And then you can do it properly.
Speaker F: Because it’s all about doing things with quality.
Speaker D: Not quickly.
Speaker G: We’re going to do it easily, effortlessly.
Speaker D: And it’s simple.
Speaker A: Because in simplicity, there’s genius, isn’t there?
Speaker F: in simplicity there is genius.
Speaker G: But if you have got time, maybe just stop this now and think, I’m.
Speaker B: Going to have time in five minutes.
Speaker G: Ten minutes, an hour going to sit in the park. Because it will only take probably five.
Speaker F: Or ten minutes, promise you.
Speaker G: So, get ready for that time.
Speaker F: But if you’re okay now awesome.
Speaker G: A well overused word awesome, isn’t it?
Speaker F: I use it totally too much awesomely.
Experiment to find out if something really is important to you
Speaker F: So apparently but anyway, you’ve got a bit of time with me. So I want you to think of.
Speaker A: something that you would like to.
Speaker F: Do but you don’t know how.
Speaker G: Or something that you’ve wanted to do.
Speaker F: But you gave up.
Speaker G: You gave up because it was just a little bit too overwhelming and you didn’t know the bloody how.
Speaker D: Okay?
Speaker G: So here’s what you’re going to do. So can you bring something to mind? And, we’re going to just experiment to find out if it really is important to you. Because as we say, if it is, if it feels important to you and therefore it meets your values, meets your needs and your wants, then we’re going.
Speaker B: To go on to the next thing.
Speaker G: Of finding that steps. And if we find that it isn’t important to you, it doesn’t resonate, doesn’t.
Speaker F: Meet your values and your needs, then you can just shelve it and find.
Speaker A: Something else that really lights your fire.
Speaker G: Gives you the buz resonates. Because that gives you space, isn’t it?
Speaker B: Because you get rid of that thing.
Speaker G: That you’re thinking about or you thought.
Speaker B: Was important and now you know it isn’t.
Speaker A: Gives space in your life to do.
Speaker G: The things that really say light your.
Speaker D: Fire.
Speaker G: Make a difference, make a difference.
Speaker A: In your life, makes a difference in other people’s life. And that’s what we really want here.
Speaker G: That’s where personal development really comes in.
Make things specific because if you just want to get better so general,
Speaker F: So here we go.
Speaker B: Bring that something to mind, that thing.
Speaker A: That you like to do or you wish you had done, and just bring it to mind. And just notice if you knew exactly what it was. Make it a little specific. It’s always good to make things specific because if you just want to get better so general, you just get a little bit better, you generally get better. That’s not what we’re looking for.
Speaker B: We want to specifically make changes in our lives at specific things that,
Speaker A: Will affect everything else. Then they can generalize. But we start off with a specific.
Imagine zooming right out into the future where you’ve achieved a dream
Speaker A: So what do you specifically want to do, want to achieve or wish you had achieved, had have started?
Speaker B: Bring that to mind and you might.
Speaker A: Just talk about it in your head with your internal voice, telling yourself, well, this is what I want to do.
Speaker B: And then I want you to imagine.
Speaker A: Zooming out in time. Imagine zooming right out into the future, to a place where you’ve achieved that thing so effectively. The end of the process of what.
Speaker B: You want, the things you’re going to.
Speaker A: Do to get there, to where you’re doing it. You’ve achieved it. You’re successful right now.
Speaker B: You’ve got it right now.
Speaker A: Imagine having it right now. You’re all the way in the future.
Speaker B: you’ve done all the work, you’ve.
Speaker A: Done all the steps, and you’re here. You’ve got it. What does it look like? What can you see?
Speaker B: You would look through your own eyes now, having already achieved this dream.
Speaker A: What are the things you’d see?
Speaker B: How would you see the world differently? Maybe there’d be pictures in your mind as well.
Speaker A: What would they be? What about your internal voice? What would you be saying to yourself? Maybe you’d be repeating a, positive.
Speaker B: Belief because you’ve achieved something.
Speaker A: So what would that positive belief be? That supporting belief? Maybe there’s a taste in the smell because we always have a taste of success. I can smell it in the air. And when you put all those together, what you’ll see, the pictures you make.
Speaker B: In your mind, the things you’ll see.
Speaker A: Outside the voice, inside your head, even the way you speak, the way you move your physical body, how will you move when you achieve this? See yourself be there doing it. And how does that feel? Notice the feelings. And as you feel the feelings, you might even think, what new opportunities will this bring me? How does this affect me, my life, and the other people in my life? How does having this successful completion affect me, this feeling and the other people.
Speaker B: And what new opportunities?
Speaker A: And really feel it? And as you do that, notice, does.
Speaker B: This feel important to you?
Speaker A: You can even ask yourself, is this important to me?
Speaker B: Does it meet m my values, my needs, my wants?
Speaker A: Does it feel the right thing to do or have done? Does this result, is this the result I was looking for? And does it feel good?
Speaker B: Does it make me feel better? Does it make my life better?
Speaker A: Has this made my life better, the same or worse? Just ask those questions and answer them honestly.
Speaker B: Because if it doesn’t, make your.
Speaker A: Life better, if it doesn’t feel important to you, if it doesn’t give you.
Speaker B: More opportunities, then maybe it’s time to.
Speaker A: Shelve it.
Speaker B: Because I don’t know that.
Speaker A: Sometimes that can be difficult, can’t it?
Speaker B: Because you’ve been thinking about a long time.
Speaker A: But now you’re not going to waste your time, not going to waste any more time. And time is the only thing that can disappear on us.
Speaker B: We have a runway, as they say, and the runway tends to get shorter.
Speaker A: As we go along. It so let’s not waste our time on the one way, the one way, the runway.
Speaker B: But if it is important to you.
Speaker A: And this feeling is so good and you know it’s going to lead to a better life and you know it’s going to lead to new opportunities and.
Speaker B: Maybe just squeeze a little finger and.
Speaker A: A thumb together as you feel that feeling. Maybe say a special word that really energizes and symbolizes and that it just feels the right thing to say with this feeling because this is anchoring. It you’re anchoring this feeling is effectively.
Speaker B: The feeling of the wish fulfilled neville.
Speaker A: Goddard from years and years and years ago. Nothing’s new, by the way. And they’re basic. So it’s a simple way. But it is so powerful, simply powerful.
Speaker B: And when you’ve done that, you can.
Speaker A: Open your eyes if you close them, by the way.
Speaker B: And if you didn’t, well, they’re open anyway. But come and have a quick flick.
Speaker A: Around the world with your eyes.
Speaker G: See the wonders. So come back into come back into your body, as it were. Because when you’re back in your body.
Speaker F: You know now you haven’t achieved it yet.
Speaker G: And I say yet because what we.
Speaker B: Don’T want to do is stick into that feeling all the time because then our unconscious mind might think we’ve already got it and then we won’t even find the house.
Speaker G: We won’t even bother to do it.
Speaker A: Because we think we’ve got it.
Speaker F: But now we’ve got an aim in mind, haven’t we?
Speaker G: And the best thing about it is it’s an aim in mind with an emotion, a powerful positive emotion with a powerful positive belief that supports it. And that’s where we’re going to get our, drive, our motivation. And I think sometimes it’s really good.
Speaker F: If you could write it down, dictate.
Write down why this goal is important to you
Speaker G: It onto your phone, put it into.
Speaker B: Your notes, do whatever. Why is this important to me?
Speaker G: This is important to me because of and fire that anchor off again.
Speaker B: Squeeze that little finger and thumb together. Say that word, remember that feeling.
Speaker G: Think of those opportunities and write down, why is this important to me?
Speaker A: Because it will make me feel this.
Speaker B: It will allow me to do that. It will create this type of change.
Speaker G: And when we do write it down, we’re just reliving that wonderful feeling. And again, that wonderful feeling is our.
Speaker B: Motivation because it’s our value, because it’s.
Speaker G: Important, the feeling of importance in this thing. And then consider this as you hold on to that feeling, as you hold.
Speaker F: On why it’s important to you, maybe just, restate specifically what you want.
Speaker G: You might want to write that down.
Speaker F: So we don’t forget it.
Speaker G: And just notice where you are now in relation to this goal because you may be along the way, a little way. You may be not even started anything towards it.
Speaker F: And then even think, and this.
Speaker G: Is part of it. We will now know when we’ve got it, won’t we? Because when you get it, you’ve seen it.
Speaker F: Now you’ll know when.
Speaker B: Because one thing I’ve noticed that people.
Speaker G: Can get so close to a goal but because they don’t know what the final step is, they sometimes give up and they can be so close. We’ve seen it in other people, haven’t we? They’re so close to the goal, but somehow they don’t see it themselves.
Speaker A: And this is that knowing the.
Speaker B: Feeling of the wish fulfilled, knowing what.
Speaker G: You’Ll see, hear and feel.
Speaker B: Then you know how close you are and you know how to keep on.
Speaker F: Track, keep making and taking wonderful actions, intuitive, powerful actions.
Speaker G: And then you can think of, well.
Speaker F: Before we start, what resources have I got?
Speaker G: anyway? And you go, Well, I haven’t got any resources.
Speaker A: Yes you have.
Speaker B: You got yourself for a start. You’ve got this motivation.
Speaker G: You’ve got energy, you’ve got time if.
Speaker F: You schedule it properly.
Speaker G: You’ve got colleagues, you’ve got friends, you’ve got books, you’ve got the internet, you’ve got YouTube, you’ve got all those things where you can find out about other people who have achieved that goal or.
Speaker A: Other people who will give you and.
Speaker G: Help you with those steps.
Speaker B: You don’t have to follow them completely because they might not be your steps.
Speaker G: But you can gather information.
Speaker A: So you’ve got loads of resources.
Speaker G: One thing sometimes we forget is is this goal only for us? Because sometimes we try to do a.
Speaker F: Goal and it’s purely for other people or we’re trying to please other people.
Speaker G: Or well, everyone else is doing it. So I guess I should follow. It’s not really for me.
Speaker B: And that’s why I say it’s got.
Speaker G: To resonate as being so important to.
Speaker F: You, that ah, feeling of the wish.
Speaker G: Fulfilled because it’s not for you either.
Speaker A: Make it so you are the center.
Speaker G: Of it, not narcissisticly I can’t say the word, but you’re going to drive this, so it’s got to be for you. Other people get the benefit. And that’s why I say, how does it affect yourself and others in the world? Because it’s got to affect them positively too. And you may even want to think, well, who do I want this goal with? Or who don’t I want it? Because sometimes there are people you particularly don’t want for this little bit of the adventure. Those naysayers, I’m going to steer clear of those because they’ll just bring me down. No, I want the people going to support me. You might even think quietly with like your puzzle book. And I don’t sell them, by.
Speaker F: The way, puzzle books.
Speaker G: It’s literally they’re a piece of paper or a book of pieces of paper.
Speaker D: Called a puzzle book.
Speaker G: That’s it, because I called it a puzzle book.
Speaker F: And you write in there, have I.
Speaker G: Done anything like this before?
Speaker B: So you can write down those resources. And one of your resources is, I’ve.
Speaker G: Done something maybe similar. And, something similar could be. Well, I know the last time I did something like this, like a project or something, I did look here, I did ask people.
Speaker B: It’s completely different type of project.
Speaker G: But the process of asking, getting information, getting help, assistance, advice, I’ve done things like that before. So you can think about that.
What will you gain from this? Now, what will you lose
Speaker A: And who do you know who has.
Speaker G: Maybe done this before, personally? No one you can ask.
Speaker A: So it’s good.
Speaker G: That’s another resource, really, isn’t it? And the thing is, the other thing.
Speaker A: What will you gain from this?
Speaker G: Now, we’ve seen this about what you’re.
Speaker B: Going to feel and how it’s going.
Speaker G: To affect, but what will you personally gain from this?
Speaker B: And sometimes you might think, well, when.
Speaker A: I get this, I’ll gain this, but.
Speaker G: I’ll also gain confidence in myself. My self esteem will get better. Impostor syndrome, be gone.
Speaker D: That will just disappear.
Speaker G: I’ll learn a new set of skills, and I’ll be able to use those for other things. And maybe you write those down, by the way. The other thing you can write down.
Speaker F: Is, what will you lose? Now, sometimes you might lose some close.
Speaker G: People along the way, because you’re going.
Speaker F: To have focused time doing this work.
Speaker G: You always say that when people get.
Speaker B: Famous, they lose a lot of their friends.
Speaker G: Some people don’t worry about that, but.
Speaker A: Other people can mitigate it.
Speaker G: And that’s the thing. If you know you’re going to lose.
Speaker B: Something, you can mitigate it if it’s.
Speaker G: Really important to you.
Speaker B: But you also might lose your anxiety.
Speaker G: You might lose your fear.
Speaker F: You don’t think about that, huh?
Speaker G: And you think, wow, well, if I’m.
Speaker F: Going to gain confidence and I’m going.
Speaker G: To lose my fear, my anxiety, damn.
Speaker F: That’S going to be good.
Speaker G: I’m going to be able to use it in the future. And then, you see, I’m, going.
Speaker A: To show you where you can get.
Speaker G: That information again from, by the way, in a moment.
Speaker F: But the thing is, those steps, now.
Speaker B: We’Ve gone through various places where you can find some steps.
Speaker G: But here’s the thing.
Speaker A: If you go to that last step.
Speaker B: The last thing you need to do.
Speaker G: To get that goal, if you think.
Speaker A: What would I have to do just.
Speaker F: Before that to get that step? Oh, well, I’d, be doing this.
Speaker A: And what would I have to do.
Speaker G: Just before that and before that, until you come to the very first step. And the very first step wants to be the smallest step that you can take. The smallest some people don’t like the.
Speaker F: Term, baby steps, but they’re the.
Speaker G: Smallest step that you have, that feeling.
Speaker B: You fire that anchor off that little finger and thumb together, say that word.
Speaker G: You get that feeling in and say, does this step give me this feeling?
Speaker B: Will it allow me to make the next step after this.
Speaker G: Don’t know what it is yet.
Speaker B: I know it’s going to come. Only a staircase. I’ll find the next step.
Speaker G: It’s that it’s coming along after that. So you’re feeling that, holding on to that feeling of the wish fulfilled, firing that anchor, saying that word, knowing the smallest step, and you do it. But what you got to do, you got to schedule it out, haven’t you?
Speaker B: Schedule those steps out, schedule the time.
Speaker G: Out to find those steps.
Speaker B: Review at the end of the week, maybe.
Speaker G: How far have I come? How can I do it? Maybe act as if I had how was I acting when I had that.
Speaker B: Feeling of the wish fulfilled, that final step?
Speaker G: Well, what would happen if I acted that way at the very first step? Well, your physiology would be different, your.
Speaker B: Mindset would be different.
Speaker A: You’d have a positive belief they’d all make a difference.
Speaker G: So you take action on that smaller step, review your steps, carry on next.
Speaker F: Time, schedule, review, rinse and repeat. Now, the thing is, information about that.
Speaker G: Just a little while ago, I went through the Five Keys to Success two or three, four episodes longer episodes ago.
Speaker A: So you could hike into that one.
Speaker G: If you haven’t done already.
Speaker A: There’s also the Hypnosis track.
Speaker G: So that’s hashtag three, five, two, and there’s a Hypnosis track to it. You know where to get those, don’t you?
Speaker B: Paulcloughonline.com podcast.
You can go through Hypnosis tracks and you can also go through well formed outcome
Speaker G: Sign up. They’re all there. That’s the top one, I think, the latest one. But you can also go through a thing called Well Formed Outcome, keys to Achievable Outcome. It’s called a well formed outcome. Comes from NLP.
Speaker D: I talked about this years and years ago.
Speaker G: That was hashtag 91.
Speaker B: And you’ll find, I think there’s two, there might be Hypnosis or they might, I think one’s Hypnosis and one’s A.
Speaker G: Consider this, and you go to that.
Speaker B: Hypnosis tracks again, and that’s 91.1 and 91.2.
Speaker G: And while I was looking for those numbers going through the Hypnosis tracks, we’ve.
Speaker B: Got up there and there’s about 50.
Speaker G: Well, nearly 60 now. I was looking through each one of those and I was thinking, well, other.
Speaker B: Than those two I’ve just mentioned, you.
Speaker G: Could virtually pick any one of them and they would help you get the right state, find the right thing. Imagination finding, even imagining you’re talking to somebody called Perceptual positions, imagine you’re talking.
Speaker B: To somebody who you know has done.
Speaker A: It before, what advice could they give?
Speaker G: And you do it in your head and you get information. All this stuff, it’s all there. So there’s loads of stuff on my and it’s free, by the way. Let’s call it complimentary. All there for you. It’s all my sharings. So there’s loads of information that you.
Speaker F: Can do this, which means then you.
Speaker G: Can get it to work.
Speaker F: And you’re not wasting your time, because.
Speaker B: You’Re not wasting, your time on.
Speaker G: Things that aren’t important to you and you just thought they were, or people said they were. But you’re finding the things that are really important to you and then going for it.
Speaker F: And the thing is, this is really.
Speaker G: Back to basics, because the basics just simply bloody work.
Speaker F: You find your why, then you’ll find the steps, because we just parked the house. The house will come back because you’re.
Speaker G: Oh, we all need a why.
Speaker B: There’s so many times people do something.
Speaker G: And they realize, well, it wasn’t for them anyway.
Speaker B: Well, if they found that out right before, they wouldn’t have wasted time.
Speaker G: Time is valuable, precious.
Speaker F: I hope that made sort of good sense. I hope that’s inspired you to think.
Speaker B: Well, I can use this process again. This is not just that.
Speaker G: For that one thing, you could use.
Speaker B: It as many times as you like and you go, well, now I.
Speaker G: Know what he’s talking about.
Speaker B: I’m just going to rewind the tape because it’s not a tape, but you know what I mean, you could rewind.
Speaker G: The podcast at that time again.
Speaker F: And I’m going to go through a different thing.
Speaker B: I want to I want to find.
Speaker A: My why on this.
Speaker D: Now.
Speaker A: Now I’ve got the buzz because I played with that one.
Speaker B: Now I want to find out something.
Speaker G: Is really important to me, this new thing. Do it again. And do it again. Bookmark this download, I think I’m sure you can download these episodes if you want to download that and do whatever.
Speaker A: You wish with it. I’m quite happy that you do that.
Speaker B: I want you to do it.
Speaker G: It’s a way of sharing. It’s my way of sharing what I know.
Speaker A: And everyone else, a lot of people know this as well.
Speaker B: But it’s my way of sharing what I know in the way I know it. And I hope it makes sense.
Speaker A: Because sharing makes sense, doesn’t it? We always get the sharing. If you get this and you will share it with other people, tell them if you can verbalize it, explain it to somebody else, you will learn it even deeper. You’ll realize maybe there’s a bit you didn’t get, or you’ll maybe expand upon it, make it even better. And then share where you got it from. Share the podcast, share this episode.
Speaker B: And if you would, it makes so apparently, apparently, because, I’m not an It type person, but apparently if you’ve got there’s always a subscribe button on.
Speaker A: The thing you listen to.
Speaker B: If you could just touch that with your finger.
Speaker A: I’m not too worried about getting the.
Speaker B: Right e bits at the end and, things like that.
Speaker A: I’d love them.
Speaker B: If you’d like to give your comments.
Speaker A: About things but just subscribe, that’d be great.
Speaker B: And very, very lastly, because I’ve told you about the Hypnosis tracks, where you get them, get them from, told you.
Speaker A: About sharing or ask you about sharing. But if there is anything.
Speaker B: You want to know, or if you.
Speaker A: Have any critique for me that will help me get better, please do email.
Release the best version of yourself into the world and see how it affects others
Speaker B: Me feedback at Personal developmentunplugged.com.
Speaker A: Thank you so much for your time. I really appreciate it. And go make this world a better place by making you the best version of yourself.
Speaker B: Release the best version of yourself into.
Speaker A: The world and see how it affects so many people.
Speaker B: You’ll never know how far the ripples.
Speaker A: Of your change will have on the world, but you will.
Be brave, my friend. It’s time to fly on your own
Speaker A: Anyway, having said all of, that.
Speaker D: It’S time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.
Speaker E: Personal development. Unplugged.