“I’m Not Good Enough” — Where It Comes From and How to Let It Go
A deeper exploration inspired by Episode #469 of Personal Development Unplugged
There’s a belief that sits quietly behind so many struggles:
I’m not good enough.
It’s one of those thoughts that feels like it’s always been there. It shapes the way we show up, the way we hold back, and the way we talk to ourselves when things get tough.
But here’s the truth: you weren’t born with that belief.
It came from somewhere. And if it was learned, it can be changed.
The Real Origin of “I’m Not Good Enough”
This belief rarely comes from a dramatic moment. It usually comes from something much smaller — a subtle experience, maybe more than one, repeated just enough times for your unconscious mind to draw the wrong conclusion.
It generalises. It spreads.
Suddenly “I wasn’t good enough then” becomes “I’m not good enough in general.”
But there’s something important hiding underneath that:
Your unconscious mind is trying to protect you.
Strange, isn’t it?
A belief that feels horrible is actually an attempt at protection.
But when you break it down, it makes sense:
If you don’t try, you can’t fail.
If you don’t speak up, you can’t be embarrassed.
If you don’t step forward, you won’t get hurt.
The problem?
You end up feeling like a failure because you didn’t try.
That’s the loop so many people get stuck in.
The Good News: There’s a Better Way
Your unconscious mind is always willing to update its strategy — as long as you honour the intention behind the old one.
And the intention is simple:
Keep you safe.
When you start working with your unconscious mind rather than against it, you can install beliefs like:
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I’m here to learn and grow.
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I can handle this.
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I choose to show up as my best today.
These aren’t affirmations.
They are instructions your unconscious mind can actually use.
The Power of Memory and Imagination
In the episode, I guide you through combining an old belief with new evidence — real examples from your past where you succeeded and felt capable — alongside imagined future experiences where those empowering beliefs are fully alive.
This does two things:
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It rewires how your unconscious mind interprets past events.
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It rehearses success in the future, creating emotional safety and confidence before you even get there.
That’s how deep change happens.
Not through willpower — but through alignment.
A New Way of Being
When you no longer carry “I’m not good enough,” life feels different:
You turn up more fully.
You try things without that heavy emotional cost.
You listen to yourself more kindly.
You become flexible, resilient, present.
And the lovely part is:
You’ve already got everything you need to create that shift.
This episode simply helps you access it.