Empathy sucks.
Now before you throw something at me, I’m not talking about kindness. I’m not talking about caring. I’m talking about absorbing other people’s pain as if it’s your responsibility to carry it.
Because that? That drains you.
And it doesn’t actually help them.
The Hidden Cost of Empathy
Read MoreDiscover why empathy can drain you and how compassion and self-empathy help you support others without absorbing their pain.
Read MoreIs empathy draining you? Discover the powerful difference between empathy and compassion, learn how to process your own emotions, and build emotional resilience so you can support others without losing yourself.
Read Moren this longer, deeper episode of the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast, Cloughie explores why kindness is one of the most underrated forces for change—inside and out. In a world that feels increasingly self-centred, reactive, and short-tempered, a simple act of kindness can disrupt the noise and spark real transformation.
This is part personal confession (yes, Cloughie admits to being “a bit of a dick”), part gentle wake-up call, and 100% full of practical reflections to help you become more self-assured and more connected to those around you.
Read MoreThis isn’t just about stopping bad habits. It’s about understanding the intention behind those knee-jerk behaviours and learning how to respond with calm, curiosity, and confidence.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
How to recognise the unconscious triggers behind emotional outbursts
Why your unconscious mind isn’t the enemy—it’s actually trying to protect you (even if it’s doing a rubbish job)
A simple yet powerful way to thank those old patterns—and let them go
How to build new beliefs and emotional habits that support the real you
Practical steps to respond with intention instead of reaction
And a process to boot to follow along with
Want to unlock that confident feeling whenever life throws a challenge your way? In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the powerful mindset of “I’ve Got This” – that extraordinary state where confidence and competence come together to help you tackle anything.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode:
How to tap into unshakeable self-confidence using proven NLP anchoring techniques
The neuroscience behind creating emotional states you can access on demand
My personal journey with anchoring and how it’s transformed my approach to challenging situations
A practical, step-by-step process to create your own confidence anchor using just your thumb and little finger
Why specific, vivid memories are the secret to building powerful anchors that last