#371 Day Dream Believer

Day Dream Believer

Are you?

Do you?

What do I mean about all that? Well, we all daydream and most of the time we don’t realize we’re doing it. That can be a bit of a shock if you are one of those people who think they can’t visualize because you do it perfectly when you daydream.

The thing is I am not talking of those daydreams we simply get lost in and then forget them when things interrupt us.

So what are you talking about Cloughie? I hear you ask.

I am talking about deliberate daydreaming, using this natural superpower, this natural phenomenon to create confidence, success, and anything you want. The great thing it’s easy, simple, and takes no time at all or as much time as you like because when you do it the feeling you get is also great!

How am I going to do that Cloughie?

Well if this was an article I’d write it out for you but it isn’t so as always you will have to press play, listen, and take notes. And maybe get yourself a Dream Book – available at all good stationers  :O)

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Paul Clough: Daydreaming can make your life so much better


>> Speaker A: Hey, you over there, listening. I hope you’re listening anyway. Well, I wouldn’t be talking to you if you weren’t listening. And this is me, Paul, and I’m thinking about things that simply unnatural and actually using the things that simply come naturally, because the simple things, as we know in simplicity, there’s genius and all that, things we love that bit. And if it’s natural, a natural phenomenon, it means we’re using the things that happen so natural, we don’t have to make them happen, we don’t have to add a process to it, do we? Or if we do, we can add something at the end to make it even more better. So, I’ve got a question for you. Have a think about this. Well, not think, just think very quickly, how often do you dream, and I’m not talking about the sleepy bye bye’s dreams, those ones, and I have some weird ones, but sometimes, have you noticed in some dreams you can wake up and still be dreaming them? That’s weird. But that is not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about when you really daydream, really trade. Say that again. A really daydream. But the thing is, it’s not that, what I’m not talking about and the stuff I think we do quite often is not that, oh, what will happen if it all goes wrong? Nearly swore. If it all goes to that pile of stuff in the corner there, what would happen then? That’s the type of dream that we daydream, don’t we? And we have, they’re the things that we do so naturally. And when I talk to people about do you visualize stuff? They go, no, I can’t visualize. I don’t know why they’re that type of voice. But they say. Sometimes people say, I can’t visualize. But I know for 100% truth that when you start to think in these negative ways, we daydream like a gooden, and we can see how things can go really wrong. We can make it up so well because it is a dream. We can add sounds, we get feelings out of the bloody things. It’s not even happening. And we can feel them, feel them. And that’s just really like a dream. And we feel things in dreams. So something in your mind you can hear, you can see and feel. And the thing is, it sometimes isn’t just a one off event, is, ah, it. It’s like a bloody miniseries. Bloody miniseries of negative things with umpteen bloody episodes, each one getting a little worse. Because you thought it could get this worse, and then something inside you. Well, what happens if it even got worse than that? Or if this happened? If that happened. And when we do that, we tend to get lost in our thoughts. And I mean lost. We just get lost in it. And we feel it. And those emotions stay with us, don’t they? Those fears, the anxiety. I always think about impostor syndrome because we might get it at the time, but I know that we get it before, when we think about doing things. Who am I to do this? I don’t deserve this. I’m not good enough. They’ll find me out. And that’s before you even start the bloody thing. But you see, I am not talking about those ones where we’re lost in those type of thoughts. In fact, not lost in thoughts at all. Because sometimes even we’ll think about things, and then we’re so lost, we don’t even remember the bloody thing, because something else comes along. And you see, that is a natural phenomenon. And being lost in your imagination can be great, really can be great, can it could be expansive, experiential, it could be weird, could be outrageous. But to me, as long as we remember, we remember that weird, we remember that outrageous, we m remember the inspiration that we were making and having, and, noticing the experiences, the richness of life. That what I’m talking about, that’s the dreams I want. That’s real daydreaming to me, because that’s doing something of a wonderful, positive way. And the thing is about those, they may come to absolutely nothing. And I’ve had daydreams like that, where something is so great. And I thought about it. I thought about it. And then thought she. I, don’t think it’s going to run. And I don’t do it because it’s not that important to me. But then I’ll have another one. And I get so fired up and in the moment I start the process. And sometimes I start too quickly and it peters out because I hadn’t gone through a process of working out how to do this thing, but it fired me up. But you have to think about this. No, you don’t. Well, I do. Where the hell did that bloody thing come from? Where did that weird, expansive, experiential, outrageous, weirdly wonderful, inspirational little dream come from?



What about deliberate daydreaming with intention? Because it works


Well, for me it can only come from my unconscious mind because I wasn’t consciously doing it. And even I was sometimes consciously doing it. I’m accessing the stuff inside. And you see, you could if you wanted to, even if. And this is what I try to do. And I say try because try means fail. That doesn’t. Sometimes I stop remembering because it goes so quickly. But have a dream book. I’ve told you about these dream books before. They’re on sale everywhere. They’re just not under the title of a dream book. I used to sell a book called my dream book, but it’s all about putting stuff into the future. But a dream book is, as I’ve said before, I could sell them to you if you get in touch with me, or they’re available wherever you want. A dream book is a piece of, well, a load of bits of paper. Normally plain paper, because I like plain paper. And they’re bound with two hardcovers. or a soft cover, because it’s a bloody book. A book with plain paper in. And on the front of it you put my dream book. This dream book belongs to me. Anyway, that’s that bit. But we’ll talk about that a little bit later. But you see, here’s the thing. What about deliberate daydreaming? Because it works. I’ve told you that. Didn’t mean to say it that way. I believe when we have those expansive, weird, outrageous, intuitive, inspirational dreams, well, they can come. But what about if we did that deliberately dreaming with intention? Because I think when we dream with intention, we get our unconscious mind to join in as well as our conscious mind. Our, conscious mind being the goal setter, our unconscious mind being the goal getter. And that means we’re goal setting, as it were, to dream, to dream in a way. And it starts off, I guess, with everything, you have a goal in mind. So it’s not just necessarily random, but it can be for ten minutes. You might just want to sit down and randomly dream of everything you could possibly want to do. That’s a wonderful thing to do. Have them in that dream book. Write the suckers down. Old Joe Rogan, he didn’t say sucker, but he said, write that sucker down. And I believe that you’d write these things down because you’ll always come back to them. They may be stupid at this moment in time, in your mind. They may be silly, outrageous, too outrageous for you, too weird. But you never know. As time goes by, you look at it again and you go, do you know what? I think I’m going to have a go at that. Or I’m going to change it slightly. You see, if you have a goal, a wish, an end in mind, maybe we’ve tried to follow it and it wasn’t right. You see, sometimes we do that because we’ve got those bloody negative beliefs, as I said, those first sets of daydreams, but they still have those beliefs. I’m not good enough. I’m stupid. I can’t do this. Then we get the fear of the anxiety, and they’re just to really protect us from any failure. But how can it be failure when it’s in your mind? That’s the thing. This is in your mind. And we all know that failures are not failures if we learn from them. But when they’re down in your mind as an imagination, a, visualization, those thoughts that you can just allow to go to anywhere, any type of scenario, any type of action, and notice what happens. It’s as if you’re doing it in real time, but without the result, as it were, that, if it didn’t work, quite work out the way you wanted to do, you haven’t lost anything. You’ve learned by it. But if it did, you know what to do. So you can start. So you think, let’s just rewind slightly. Let’s go back to that dream, that dream that want, that you have, the dream that you want to create in your life, that goal, the boring, some people call it boring, but it is a goal. It’s an aim in mind. And if we daydream with intention, the intention is to learn. To learn what may be possible, to learn what may come up so we can mitigate against it. To learn what it will bloody feel like. Because wouldn’t it be absolutely disastrous? And I, don’t know about you, but I’ve done this before. You have this intuition. You go for it. You don’t think about it. You just go for it because it’s something that’s been on your mind. You put no planning into it because you go, I’m going to go with my inspiration. Just my inspiration. You put a lot, of effort into it, time. And when you get there, you finished, or you’re going through it, and it’s not what you want. It doesn’t feel good. You’re not getting the feedback that you wanted. You’re not getting the feelings, the richness, the success. And I think we can alleviate that now by beginning to, as I say, daydream with intention. And as we do that, we can start to ask questions in this daydream.



Ask yourself what would it be like to succeed at this dream


So we think of the goal in mind, the dream, the dream we want to have realized. And, with the intention to find out, to be inquisitive, curious. We can ask things like, what will it actually be like to succeed at this? What would I see along the way? and what would I see when I get there? What type of things would I speak to myself, my internal voice? Would it be encouraging? Would it be. What would, what would I say to myself to make it encouraging, to motivate myself? How would I hold the big picture of the final result while holding on to the steps along the way and the feeling of motivation. Maybe there’s a smell and taste of success. You can imagine that now, couldn’t you? Just thinking of that goal and just asking yourself, what would it be like along the way? The journey, the adventure, I like to call it not the journey, but what would it be like? Would it make my life better or worse? And sometimes that’s a bit difficult to think of it. You say, well, what would I lose? Because some people say, well, I’ll lose my anxiety, I’ll lose my fear. But some people might say, well, I’ll lose my friendships, the people I’ve grown up with, because I’ll be moving on. What will I gain? Well, I might gain competence and confidence, new skills. My self esteem may get better, stronger. I may gain new friends. And I think, as you know, that you can again, write that sucker down. Any concerns you have, any things that you think you’re going to gain so you can mitigate one and make sure that you plan for the other. You can ask yourself, in this intentionalized daydreaming, what steps would I have to take? The very last step to make sure it happens. The very first step. You can just think about that, and you can see yourself doing it, see what it feels like maybe you look at that first step and you go, whoa, that’s a big one. Maybe I’ve got to think of a smaller step because that’s too big and too overwhelming. And when things get overwhelming, we get panicky, we get anxious, and we just, well, we lose our motivation, we get overwhelmed, and then we have this wonderful excuse of saying, I’m a procrastinator. Well, you’re not. You’re just taking too many steps about too many things where we just want the very first step, the step of the feeling of the wish fulfilled. Because if you can really feel what it feels like to have succeeded, but have that feeling of success on the very first step, acting as if you’ve already got it, but this is what I’ve got to do to get it, and it’s all in your imagination. You can write that sucker down. Maybe as you look around in this daydream of yours, you can see what type of help you’ll have had, have had to have had or help that you need. Maybe there’s people that you need to get on board with. Maybe there’s people you just need advice from. Maybe there’s other resources. You got to think of what other resources you have, because we can take skills from different contexts and, put them into this wonderful daydream. And as you do that, guess what you’re going to do. Write that sucker down. So now we’ve got a daydream in all its wonderful technicolor and going off in all different directions in a way that we’re really making it so rich in the steps, the way, the process, and, we’ve written it down so we can come back to it. And again, you might want to just think when you’re dreaming. I say that again, when you’re daydreaming with intention, you want to learn something about that dream, don’t you? What can you learn about this daydream? Because you might find out that as you go through this daydream, you go, actually, I’ve spent ten minutes on this, writing this sucker down. And as I look back now, do you know what? It’s not really floating my boat. I’ve realized maybe that it’s something that people say we should do, peer pressure, and, I don’t want to do it. It’s not going to make my life better, really. At the end of the day, are we spending all this energy on something I’m not really that interested in now? What a wonderful learning that would be. So write that sucker down. But also what could you learn from that dream that you could use in other dreams, other projects, other goals to make them more successful? And where do you write that sucker down? In your bloody dream book. That dream book that belongs to. That’s right, you. And, why I keep saying, write that sucker down. And I know people go, oh, Paul, this is so hard. Intellectually, you know this bloody stuff. And if it was just intellectually knowing stuff and that works, you’d have done the bloody thing already. You’d be using this process right, left and center every time. But it’s not intellectual. It’s about doing. You can know the stuff, but if you don’t do it, it’s a waste of time knowing it, isn’t it? What’s the point of knowing stuff that will make you a success? Create dreams into your reality, or your reality into that dream, or whatever the term would be, creating your own reality in the way that makes you feel wonderful. Rich. Lost my train of thought there. But you see, what is the point? Oh, I know what is the point. If you just know how to do it, but you never do it. No point whatsoever. Because the one thing about it is you won’t get that dream. And in fact, probably, if you don’t write it down and look to see where the process is, something else will come along. Something else just as interesting, I can read and know and not do about will come in and push the other things out. And so you’ll have this wonderful library of absolute dross, because it might be superbly interesting. But if you don’t use it and you just talk about it, talking the talk doesn’t do anything. We know that we have to walk the walk, or walk that talk. So get that dream book, and you’ll find, as you do, that, you’ll go, this is. I’ll say that again, this with a. The, This is really interesting. I may not use this now, but, if nothing else, I’m learning how to daydream about things that are going to be important to me. So when the real important stuff comes up, the really intuitive, outrageous, courageous, whatever you want to call it, weird, wonderful intuition comes to mind. You’ve got this skill buttoned down because you know how to do it. You know how to write it down, and you know how to start. That’s why. And if you think about it, what about we just talk about dreams and goals? What about your personal development path, if there is such a thing? But it’s a path you’re on, isn’t it? Path you’re on to create the wonderful version of yourself, the best version of yourself. Every day, maybe, hopefully every day.



You have areas of your life that you want to improve


But certainly you have this set of missions maybe to, because the reasons you’re here, there’s areas of your life that I know you want to improve. And how do you do that? Here’s a process. Now daydream with intention. So you look at the areas of your life, and we’ve done some of this with wills and spokes and talked quite a few, quite a bit about this over the last few months, I guess. But now doing it with intent, daydreaming with intention. So you get that context of the life that you want to change or you want to improve, you want to get better at. And again, you just stayed dream. How do you want to be? See it in all its glory, hear everything about it inside, outside, the smell and taste and feel what it would feel like taking the steps. And some of them might be a little bit difficult. But sometimes those difficult steps are brilliant because you get to do it. You have this privilege of getting to be the real you. And when you make that effort and you conquer that effort, shit, you feels brilliant. And you can even think, and I know this happens, you work on one area of your life to make that better. I guarantee you, and I don’t do many cloughy guarantees, but I guarantee you other areas of your life will improve too, as you get more confident in that area that wasn’t quite so confident. I know the confidence grows in other areas, too, because the ripples of your change in that one area will go so far and wide in all the other areas, and they’ll affect other people in your life. And you can daydream about that. Who will this affect? And will it affect them positively, negatively? How can you help them grow? Maybe by showing them the way and daydream it. And it doesn’t have to be a three hour bloody movie. You can do it in little ten, five minute little snapshots. Maybe just think. Sometimes you say, well, I’ve done this before. Didn’t really work. Okay, great one daydream. What do I have to do differently? How do I have to be different? Those wonderful two questions. What have I got to stop doing that? if I stop doing, I start to get the result. What have I got to start doing that I haven’t been doing to get the result? What do you do with all that information? you’ve got it. Write that sucker down. Oh, in the dream book, you will be amazed. You’ll thank me for it. I promise you, first of all, I’ve got to write it down. But as you write things down, it gets so inspirational. I mean, what would happen if you took ten minutes a week to dream wild stuff in your life? We’ve talked about this before, maybe with an Od intuition. Could this be the one to change your life completely? Because that’s what’s happened to people before. They get, that one little inspiration. Where did it come from? Don’t know. Well, if you start making ten minutes a week, only, ten minutes a week to daydream with intention to dream wild stuff. What is the wildest thing I could think about doing? Most outrageous, most weird. Write that sucker down in your dream book and then come back to it. There’ll be stuff in there. You’re going to go, do you know what, Cluffy? This is what I say to myself, cloughy, I don’t know where you got that from. That ain’t going to fly. Tell you that, mate. It’s not going to fly. And then in brackets I put yet. And they’ll look at others go, well, that won’t fly either. But it does give me some thoughts, some motivation, some thoughts about another thing I was doing. And I can take some of that and put it into that. So it’s done its job already. And the thing is, each time you do this, can only have a positive effect on your life. Cannot have a negative effect. It cannot. It can only have a positive effect on your life. So why wouldn’t you do it? Because even those negative beliefs we started talking about, I’m not good enough. I’m stupid, I can’t do this. I don’t belong here. Oh, I’ve got this fear and anxiety. It’s in your head. And when you start to realize it can only have a positive effect in your life, all you have to think of then is, well, what’s the most positive belief that would support this? Because I’m going to bloody do it. I get to do this. Great. And then what you do is you think, well, this is the one. So what do we do? We schedule it. Put it in our diary. Make time for it. Oh, and write that sucker down too. And put it in your diary. And make sure, you then review the bloody thing. Review that you’ve started for and then review that you’ve. What pace you’ve set, what changes have you made? Do you need to do something differently? And, then if you wanted to, you could visualize it where you are and where you’re going to go even more. Maybe you just have to look at some notes or just make some more notes and connect it to other bits. Everything keeps changing. And I think because we’re flexible, remember those five keys to success? One was know your goal. Well, we’ve had all that in here, haven’t we? But flexibility. How can I make this even better?



There’s loads of ways you can get help through this podcast


What a wonderful question. Then write that sucker down. M and that’s how I finished off this, my notes with. Hm. Dot dot, dot, dot, dot.


>> Speaker A: See, if you wanted some help, there’s loads of ways you can get help through this podcast. I know there’s thousands and millions of other podcasts you go to as well, and you ought to. But on this podcast you’ve got wonderful resources. You’ve obviously got a back catalog, of, I don’t know, some 700 bloody episodes from the five minute quickies and the longer podcast. So we’ve covered most subjects. You’ve got those free hypnosis and NLP processes. So anything you need to learn or change your state and do all that stuff and get your imagination going, there’s loads there. 60 plus hypnosis and NLP processes there. And you get them from personal source. No you don’t. You get them from paulcluffonline.com podcast and play with those and download them. And you don’t have to them all the time, but just pick one. And maybe that just get your unconscious mind to inspire you. But yeah, you could even write to me. I’d love you to write to me. Especially how this has affected you if you’ve done it. And if you haven’t done it, maybe I’d love to know what feelings you got about not doing it. So we can do a process to let go of those feelings. So you can really get on board with making your life the richest life you can ever imagine. Knowing that we’re just simply using what comes naturally.



You can do this in anything, with anything you can dream of


And one of the things I thought of, because I’ve got this little like a format that I make some notes around and it’s one of the things what I want to tell you about in this episode, and it really is, it’s like taking responsibility, this thing that we just get to do this privilege and to remind you it’s up to you. Nobody else can create your life. People can try to control it, and you can let them if you want to go on the effect side of life. But when you come at cause it’s up to you, up to you to create and then the doing. So I just want to inspire you, to let you know that you can do this in anything, with anything you can dream of. So start dreaming intentionally. And, why is it important to do this thing that comes so naturally? Because it just bloody works. That’s what I just wrote about. Why is this important? Because it just works. There, you go daydreaming, daydreaming with intention, and just add this to your little set of things. Ten minutes a week, maybe ten minutes. If you do this, ten minutes a day. My God, I tell you now, at the end of the month, when you review the weeks, the four weeks that have just gone by, you would realize you have changed or created so much in your life. It would be absolutely, I haven’t said the word all podcasts. It’d be absolutely awesome, be incredible, be brilliant. And the thing about it is, you would be the one who’s done it all down to you. And that means you can do more. Yeah, have a think about that. So I hope you enjoyed that. I also hope that I communicated in a way that’s pretty clear. And if I didn’t, let me know that feedback at personal developmentunplugged.com email. Just send me a few notes. But I hope there’s golden nuggets here that you can use and you can share. Because if you just share, this episode to somebody, you don’t have to share it to 50 people. 30 will do. and imagine those 30 people. Oh, dear. But imagine the people you share it with, getting them to imagine their world and creating it. Wouldn’t you have done a great job of paying it forward? Yeah, imagine that. And also, as you’re imagining that screen of what you’re listening to this podcast on, if you imagine it into your mind and then see it in real life and press subscribe and follow, that would be awesome. Because that is another thing of paying it forward in some way, because it makes this, not more popular, but it makes this podcast more accessible because it’s pushed out to more people. And they can choose, they get the choices to listen or not, but at least they get the choice.



Paul Clough says it’s time to fly on your own


There you go. That’s it from cloughy. I got to sit down and have me coffee. Yeah, I got into that. So please, let’s daydream together and have more fun than we can stand and fly in those dreams. Bye bye now.


>> Speaker B: Warning. You are now leaving the unclouded mind of Paul Clough. It’s time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.


>> Speaker A: Personal development unplugged.