Empathy sucks.
Now before you throw something at me, I’m not talking about kindness. I’m not talking about caring. I’m talking about absorbing other people’s pain as if it’s your responsibility to carry it.
Because that? That drains you.
And it doesn’t actually help them.
The Hidden Cost of Empathy
Read MoreDiscover why empathy can drain you and how compassion and self-empathy help you support others without absorbing their pain.
Read MoreThey Don’t Know I’m Suffering
We talk a lot about vulnerability these days — maybe too much, and often in the wrong way.
In this Five Minute Quickie, I challenge the idea that vulnerability means oversharing or spilling everything too soon. Because for most people who are suffering — anxiety, overwhelm, feeling broken, or just “not quite right” — the real issue is this:
People don’t know what’s going on inside.
Read MoreAs the year begins to wind down, this Five Minute Quickie (that may run a little longer 😄) invites you to pause, reflect, and ask yourself some powerful questions.
This isn’t about New Year’s resolutions – it’s about intention.
In this episode, Paul challenges you to look at:
Why you’re really listening
What you truly want
Who you want to become
Read MoreSo what’s the real power behind acting as if? It’s stepping into the version of you who has already achieved your goal. Not pretending, not faking—just allowing that future you to live in the present. That’s when you tap into the physiology and psychology of success.
In this short FMQ, I’ll share why “acting as if” works, why faking never does
Read MoreHey, my friend… ever feel like life is just too loud? Social media, the news, work, responsibilities—it’s like a constant buzz in the background, making it hard to think, let alone find peace.
But here’s the thing: you can create calm amidst the chaos. In this episode, I share my journey to finding inner peace—those little moments of self-therapy that help me recharge and reset. And trust me, it’s not about escaping the world; it’s about taking control of your inner one.
Read MoreNow, you might think of anxiety as this annoying, persistent foe, always getting in the way of your calm. But what if we’ve been looking at it all wrong? What if anxiety could actually be an ally—a messenger, even a bit of a guide? Stick with me, and I’ll show you how to stop running from anxiety and start working with it.
Read MoreNo fluff, no excuses, just real, raw choices. Because here’s the deal—you’ve only got *one* life, so let’s stop blaming, stop explaining, and start owning it.
Let me start with a little story
Read MoreOh my, was I a Dick! With a capital D until I suddenly realized something, like a massive ah-ha moment
Read More. I really struggled to make a decision on something that to most would be a small step but at the time, for me, was a big step for Cloughie and what happened when I did.
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