Why Are you Stuck?
The Seed:
You’ve done the work.
You’ve read the books.
Watched the videos.
Made the plans.
You know what to do.
And yet…
You’re not doing it.
You’re not moving.
Not really progressing.
Maybe even plateauing.
So the question is…
Why are you stuck?
Here’s the Truth
You’re not stuck because you can’t grow.
You can.
Absolutely you can.
So it must be something else.
Something a little deeper… just under the surface.
The Hidden Reason
There’s a part of you asking questions you might not even notice:
- “What if I change too much?”
- “What will I lose if I succeed?”
- “Will I still be me?”
And that last one?
That’s the big one.
Because so many people say:
“I just want my old self back.”
But here’s the thing…
Your old self is part of what got you here
The Real Shift
It’s not about going back.
It’s about letting the real you come forward.
The part of you that already has:
- The resources
- The potential
- The direction
You’re not losing yourself…
You’re uncovering yourself
Why This Keeps You Stuck
Because a part of you is trying to:
- Hold onto the familiar
- Protect your identity
- Keep things “safe”
Even if that safety is keeping you small
What’s Next?
So how do you:
- Let go of that old identity… safely?
- Allow the real you to come through?
- Move forward without fear of losing yourself?
That’s what we’re diving into next.
The Deeper Dive
In the next episode, we’ll explore:
- The hidden fears of identity loss
- Why change can feel unsafe
- A simple process to align all parts of you
- How to finally step forward with confidence
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- Help them see what’s really going on
Final Thought
Maybe you’re not stuck at all…
Maybe a part of you is just waiting
to feel safe enough to move.
Shine Brightly 🌟
Paul
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Welcome back to the next seed, the five minute quickie FMQ 532. Can you believe that? Why are you stuck? Or you could say, why aren’t you doing it, crushing it? Why aren’t you reaching your goals? You know, making it happen. Maybe you’re plateauing.
You know, you’ve done all the reading. You watched all the videos. You’ve done all your planning.
You know what to do. You’re ready to walk the walk, not just to talk. And just to move on to that next level of you, as it were, personal change.
I wonder why you think you’re stuck? Because you’re not stuck, by the way. You’re not stuck just because you can’t grow. Because you can.
Absolutely, you can. You see, there’s a reason why I think you’re stuck. And the thing about being stuck is, you can choose to unstick yourself.
You can, because I believe there’s a, the question is, just below the surface, inside you. It’s like there’s a little part of you, little part of you that’s saying, what if I change too much? Frightening, maybe. Yeah.
What will I lose? What will I lose if I start to succeed? Yeah. Also, and the big one is, will I still be me, my identity, who I think I really am, or my old me? You see, so many clients that I see always say to me, you know, ask them what they want. And they say the very same thing.
Nearly always, nearly always. They say, I want to be my old self, my old me. I can remember my old me.
And we used to, I used to do so much, we used to do so much stuff. And I just want my old me back. And what they don’t realise is, the old me is part of this.
What I want you to do is to be who you really are. Allow that real you to come to the surface. So you’ll still be you.
You’ll be able to say, this is me. This is the real me, the real me that’s going to start moving on. Because I’m looking to succeed.
I know what I’m going to lose. I know what I’m going to gain. And I can’t change too much.
So that’s where the answer is, I think. But it’s how do you do that? How do you do that? How do you let that real you come to the surface and be who you really are? And that’s where we’re going to go on the deeper dive. We’re going to go into something, I think, really exciting.
Really exciting because we’re going to dive deeply into maybe the hidden fears you have about loss, your identity. And we’re going to do a process or two to really allow you to set yourself free. Have freedom to pursue the paths you were put on this bloody little planet earth to do.
Create the life you were meant to create. And enjoy every heartbeat. And that’s where I want to go.
So if that is of interest to you, make sure you press subscribe because I want you to make sure that you don’t miss the next deeper episode. And if you know of anybody who might want to really start flying too, support them by paying this forward by sharing it. Sharing the episode, sharing personal development unplugged because I’m going to be here to support your dreams, your goals and everything I can think of to make you, well not make you, to allow you to develop and evolve into the real you.
That to me is really exciting. And it’s really only down to your imagination and there’s no limit to that. No limit to your imagination of how far you can dream of going, creating, doing, serving, making this world a lovely place to live in for everybody, especially you.
So I say, if that’s of interest, tune in to the next deeper dive and we’re really going to set you free. Okay, time to fly. Hiya, it’s me Paul from the Personal Development Unplugged podcast with a five-minute quickie.
It might be a little bit longer than five minutes because nowadays I like to use these as a seed, a seed to plant into your mind, maybe a little deeper than that to get you thinking. And what I have here is a question. Why are you stuck? Because there’s a reason you’re stuck by the way.
I think we all get stuck at some point in our lives. I’ve explained a little while ago that I had some real issues about where I was going and I felt I was really stuck. And I’ve talked about that but the thing is, the question I want to ask you is, if this is you, you know, you’re not reaching your goals.
You know, you’ve got your goals, you’ve got your goals for different contexts of your life, whether it’s career, relationships, your health, fitness, all that stuff, family life. But you’re just like on a platter, you feel stuck, you can’t move. It’s as if you’re treading water, you’ve got your feet in mud, quicksand.
And you can see it over there. But you can’t quite get there. It’s as if, you know, the momentum’s gone.
You’re not really getting pulled back, but you’re not moving forward. Does that make sense? And certainly I did. I thought I know a lot of this stuff.
I do know a lot of stuff. I’ve done a lot of reading. I’ve watched a lot of videos.
I’ve gone to trainings and all that stuff. And I want to walk the walk, but I just can’t. Something is holding me back, as it were.
And the thing is, and this is where the seed goes in, it’s not that you’re stuck because you can’t grow. No, there’s something else. Something interesting, fascinating, actually, that when you discover it, things just change straight away.
And you see, I think part of the answer is just below the surface. We struggle with it up here consciously. But unconsciously, there’s a little part of you.
There’s a little part of you that is just doing and saying something to you, which you didn’t get, but you’re acting and behaving that way. You see, it’s a little thing. When I work with clients, there’s so many of them.
When we start talking deeply about how they want to be, where they want to go, their dreams and goals and desires, they tend to go, well, I really want my old me back. I want to be my old me. I can remember times when I was my old me and they were so good.
And that’s part of the problem. Because part of that problem is, your old me is part of this. And I really believe now, it’s not the old me that you want.
And I had this for years. I really wanted my old Cluffy back, the old Paul back, until I realised, I had an aha moment that said, you don’t want the old me back, Paul. You want the real you, the real Cluffy.
Because the real Cluffy has it all. The old me was part of some of the problems I had, some of the patterns that I needed to change. Because that part of me was like, what if I change too much? What if I change too much? Will I still be me? That was one of them.
Will I still be me? Because I wanted my old me, but I don’t know if I change too much, what’s going to happen? What will I lose if I actually succeed in getting these goals? Will I lose that sense of identity of who I am? And there’s an answer to those. Because it’s not about letting go of the old you. It’s not about letting go of the old you.
It’s about letting the real you out, the real you, with all your skills, your values, your beliefs, your dreams, your goals, your desires. That’s what it’s about. But we need to look at that, because allowing that part of you to let go.
And sometimes we need help with that. And that’s where I think it’s going to be really interesting and fascinating. And all that stuff, when we go into the deeper dive in the next longer podcast, where we’re going to explore this.
We’re going to find those questions that your unconscious mind or that part of you is scared of, the fear, the fear of losing your identity, maybe. So we’re going to go into a longer, deeper dive, looking at that, and also coming up with a process or two that will allow you to be free and give that part of you all the safety it needs. So you can work as one, be absolutely aligned where you’re going, and then start walking the walk.
And then you will be start reading and doing, looking and doing, dreaming and becoming and getting those dreams into reality. Because that’s what it’s all about. And that’s what we all want, isn’t it? Create dreams, create our reality, make a life that’s so wonderfully rich and rich in a way, in every shape, being everywhere.
So inside and out, making a difference to you, making a difference to the people around you, and making a difference to the whole planet Earth, as we always say. Because that’s when it’s totally ecological. And that’s when things start happening, because you’re aligned, you’ve got that real buzz, you’ve got that real feeling, and that feeling will attract all that you want.
And I’m here to support you in that. That’s the reason for doing the Unplugged podcast. I want to support you in your dreams and goals, and allow you that real you to just evolve, maybe explode with excitement, curiosity, adventure, following your real true path, which we’ve talked about, treading the path that is here for you.
And now you can. So if that excites you, press subscribe so you don’t miss that longer, deeper dive. And also, if you know anybody who might want to come on that type of journey, that adventure of letting go, being able to walk the walk and create the dreams, create the reality you and they desire, then pass this on, please, just share it a little while.
That’s all. So I look forward to seeing you, hearing from you, no, you hearing from me, being in your ear, in your mind, with you, your conscious and your unconscious mind to create the changes that will just be so good. So that’s good for you.
I will see you, hear from you, be in your ear on the next longer, deeper dive. You go fly and have a think. Let it just germinate.
So when you come back on the longer, deeper dive, we are going to move. We’re going to create and we’re going to be the real you.
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