What Are You Afraid of Losing?
(And How It’s Holding You Back)
Here’s a question for you…
What are you afraid of losing?
Not gaining… not achieving…
But losing.
Because here’s the thing…
I’ve been doing a bit of deeper work on myself lately — you know, when life shifts a little and things you’ve always done… just don’t have that same spark anymore.
And in that space… that little void…
I found myself looking for something new.
A new direction… a bit more passion… a bit more something.
But the harder I looked…
The more it seemed to disappear.
Now that’s frustrating, isn’t it?
And it got me thinking…
What if it’s not about what I’m trying to find…
But what I’m afraid of losing?
Because we all do it, don’t we?
We hold on to things — even emotional stuff, even old ways of being —
And we don’t always know why.
And maybe… just maybe…
That’s what’s getting in the way of finding what we really want.
So this is just a seed…
A question to sit with.
What are you afraid of losing?
And how might that be holding you back?
In the longer episode, we’re going to dive deeper into this…
We’ll explore what’s really going on underneath…
And more importantly…
We’ll go through a process together — not just talking about it, but actually finding your answer.
Because that’s where the change happens.
What’s the Next Step?
If this got you thinking… stay with me.
Make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss the next episode —What’s the next
That’s where we do the real work.
And maybe… just maybe…
You’ll find something you didn’t expect.
Share the Seed
If you know someone who’s searching…
Or maybe feeling a bit stuck…
Share this with them. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq530-what-are-you-afraid-of-losing
and have a look at the video too https://youtu.be/R-bP_zzZfr8
Let’s get more people asking better questions.
Shine Brightly 🌟
Paul
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And the transcript WARNING if you’re a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry – you have been warned – is it an ‘ism
Welcome to the Personal Development Unplugged podcast with me Paul. And this is a five minute quickie.
A seed, where I sow a seed or some thoughts of mine, where I want to go with a longer podcast where we can dive deeper. But instead of just diving deep into subjects, I found that was sometimes too big a jump. And I needed to think along different lines and get my thoughts to germinate.
And I want to do it with you too. So I wanted to share what I’m thinking about, so you can think about it too. And then on the longer podcast, we’re together walking hand in hand, as it were, diving deeper into subjects.
And the subject I’ve been working on is, as you can see from the title, what are you afraid of losing? What are you afraid of losing? Now, I’ve been doing something over the last couple of months, which is, for me, a little bit unusual. I’ve been doing even deeper work on myself. Yeah, deeper work on myself, because things have been changing in my life.
And you see, those things, I’ve been losing some of the things I’ve been doing for years. And in that void that’s been created, I felt lost a little bit. I felt I hadn’t got things that I was passionate about anymore.
Still get hypnosis and things like that. But there are other parts of my life that just seemed to, well, they didn’t have that spark anymore. The little candle inside me just started to get dimmer.
And I wanted to find new interest to spark passion. And I called it, this investigation, My North Star. Yeah, I have to keep looking that way, because I never know which blooming camera I’m on.
But I’m back again. But My North Star is my direction, where I want my life to be filled with more passion, more interest, more creativity, and be more worthwhile. I feel my life has been pretty worthwhile up to now, but I want to be even more, especially with this, these voids I’ve created.
I want them to be filled with good stuff, not just boring stuff. And I hope in my little adventure of creating this for myself, and I’m getting there, there’ll be things of interest I can share with you too. So if you’re having trouble with finding your direction, your passions, your mission, for being in the world, your best version of yourself and why you’re here, stay with me.
But the thing is, I discovered something quite weird. And what the weird thing was, is the harder I bloody looked, it was like the further it disappeared. It was really frustrating, because I looked and looked and looked, I kept thinking about that stuff.
I just couldn’t get it, as if I wanted something. I wanted something I could hold, to have, and it disappeared. And then something happened in my mind as I was thinking around this.
What am I afraid of losing? Which is weird, isn’t it? Put the two together, looking for something, looking for something that’s really going to be really good, really, really, really, really good. But having this fear of losing something. And it got me thinking about emotional issues.
We have emotional issues, but sometimes we hold on to them, don’t we? Why is that? What are we afraid of losing? There’s a theme there. Then I thought to myself, what about personal development? Which is a little bit like I’m doing myself. Sometimes when we’re in this lovely bit of life of personal development, we’re trying to progress ourselves, get that 1% better every day and all the stuff and all the good things, you know, creating that best version of ourselves or moving towards it.
It’s there, we’ve just got to move towards it. But sometimes we falter, don’t we? We plateau. And there’s reasons why we plateau.
But sometimes we just don’t move on from that plateau. Why is that? What are we afraid of losing? That’s what keeps coming to my mind. Now I thought to myself, what about goals, our dreams, our desires? Sometimes we work on them and it just happens, doesn’t it? But then there are other times.
And to me, sometimes they’re the big things, bit like this North Star of mine. My goal, my dream, my real passionate desire to find something new in my life, to create something which is a benefit to me, the people around me, a little old planet Earth, which makes it totally ecological and fun. Why don’t we achieve them sometimes? And I put it again.
I think sometimes we’re afraid of losing something. And it’s that fear of losing is stopping us creating marvellous, magical things in our life. What are we afraid of losing? And the thing is, these are just questions, aren’t they? They’re just questions.
But the longer podcast, I think I’ve got a bit of the answer. I’m not going to say I’ve got the total answer because there’s always more answers to find. But I think when you find the answer, as I did, boom.
Once I understood what I was afraid of losing, things just got big. They became clear again. And the more I looked, the more I found.
So on the longer podcast, if you come with me, this is of interest to you. We’re going to go deeper into what we’re afraid of losing, how we can let go of that fear, understand what’s happening on the inside. Find that passion, find that purpose.
And guess what? There’ll be at least one process in that longer podcast. I don’t know what it is yet. But we’re going to have at least one or two processes because I love that is part of this passion that I’m finding now.
I don’t just want to do talk about stuff. I hear so many people talk and they don’t back it up. They don’t give you the how.
They don’t help you through that process. They just tell you, well, this is what you’re going to look for. But no, don’t tell you how to look for it.
Well, I’m not going to tell you how to look for it. We’re going to look for it together in a process. And those answers that you find through the process, and I hope through the thoughts that we have, the deeper dive, will allow you to succeed in your life.
Because that’s the whole basis, really, of personal development unplugged. It’s using all the skills from NLP, hypnosis, everything I’ve ever got, into supporting you and me, by the way. You support me in finding our dreams, creating our dreams, succeeding in our dreams, and making little old planet Earth a better place to live.
And there is an end. The end is finding that real you. The real you that’s going to make this life so worthwhile.
And I’ll have a few questions along the way that’ll make you think too. And the thing is, when we find that real you, and it’s a simple little statement, it will create the ripples that will go so far and wide. It will change your life.
It will change the lives around you, your friends, your family. And I think you’ll make a difference to little old planet Earth. Which is, I know I repeat it so many times, but if we can make one little tiny difference, like that butterfly flapping on the other side of the world, we’re going to make a hurricane of change.
The wind of change. So please come with me. Please come with me on that longer podcast, which will be the one that follows this.
And it’ll be called something like, what are you afraid of losing? But it might be called, what are you afraid of? I don’t know. I ain’t got there yet. This is all in the making, and that’s part of this.
So come with me. Please share. So other people might be of interest, or it might be of interest to you.
You’re interested in this stuff. Maybe have a little listen to old Cluffy here. He might have something for you.
The video is a bit bonky. They’re not that professional, but hopefully the audio quality is pretty good. And he’s got some real interesting things that help you change.
If you do that, that’d be great. Just share it along and press that. I haven’t got the old things that come up on the screen.
Just press the bloody subscribe button. So you don’t miss the longer podcasts. And they always pop on your playing device of choice.
All that stuff. When you do that, we’re going to make a change together. So come with me and sit down for a spell next time.
Okay. Have more fun than you can stand. And guess what? It’s time to fly.
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And when you do that, boom, we are all going to make a difference to this little old planet earth of ours and the people in it. Let’s make a good world, a nice world. Okay.
Okay. You can now prepare to leave this unplugged mind. Warning.
You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It’s time to fly. Be brave, my friend.
Personal development unplugged.
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