Why Goals Stopped Working For Me

We all need goals. They give us direction, motivation and something to aim for. I’ve spent years teaching goal setting, visualisation, Timeline Therapy and even a little Law of Attraction. Goals work… but I discovered they weren’t the whole story.

A while ago something felt off. I was achieving what I’d set out to do, yet there was still a quiet feeling that something was missing. It wasn’t about fear of failure or limiting beliefs. It was something much deeper.

In this Five Minute Quickie I share the beginning of that discovery and ask a question that completely changed the way I now think about success and fulfilment.

What if you don’t need another goal?

What if you’re asking goals to give you something they were never designed to provide?

In the next longer episode I’ll share what I discovered, how it changed my direction, and why it became such an important part of my own personal development journey.

If you’ve ever reached a goal and still wondered, “Is this really it?” then this episode is for you.

In this episode you’ll discover:

• Why achieving goals doesn’t always create fulfilment.
• The hidden feeling many people experience after reaching success.
• The question that changed my thinking.
• Why the deeper answer isn’t another goal.
• A preview of the next Deep Dive episode.

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FMQ Why Goals Stopped Working For Me

I want to share something personal with you. A little while ago, a little while ago, something felt off. Something just didn’t feel right in my life.

The thing is, what I’m trying to say is, I want to rewind that slightly because we all need goals in our life, don’t we? Aims, desires, even dreams. We need them all, don’t we? And don’t get me wrong, this is not a goal setting workshop or anything like that at all. You see, for years, I used to have loads of goals, dreams, visualisations, you name it, I had them.

I even taught goal setting. I taught putting goals in the future. I did it with my clients.

Timeline therapy. I even did a little bit of the law of attraction because they’re all intertwined, aren’t they? And they do all have a purpose, but, and it’s the but, I felt something was missing. You know, getting goals helped me.

Yeah, yeah, they did. They helped motivate me. They felt good for a time.

But after a while, say a little while ago, I wasn’t truly fulfilled. You know, getting the goals is one thing, but it just didn’t, well, I don’t, it just didn’t make me feel right. There was something missing.

I didn’t know what it was. Well, not then. Does that resonate with you a little bit? Can you remember? Well, I’ll explain the feeling I had.

And maybe you, it’ll resonate with you. Maybe you can remember the type of feelings that you’ve had. I just felt hollow inside.

Yeah, I was pleased with what I was doing. But again, it was just there was something maybe out of reach. Something, you know, I said unfulfilling, but I could look back over my life and say, Yeah, you’ve had a fulfilling life, Cloughie.

Yeah, there’s ups and downs and some big downs. And yes, big ups. But really, I couldn’t put my hand on it.

I couldn’t grasp what was missing. Not then. Sometimes by the vision I was looking through my eyes in internally, I guess, was a bit blurred.

Because I couldn’t quite see the direction I wanted to go in. Something was missing. It really was.

Now, I know, sometimes we can put that to things like fear of success, fear of failure. You’ve even got things like, I’m not good enough, all those limiting beliefs, you know, I shouldn’t be here. What if they find me out? And we can deal with those.

And we will deal with those. You see, there are things that prevent us having goals, getting our dreams, getting that getting our desires. And I’ve got 60 plus hypnosis tracks for you completely free.

Well, complimentary is a better way of saying it. Just go to paulcluffonline.com forward slash podcast and have what you like. And if there’s anything that you require help in, in achieving your goals, or something is stopping you and you want to let go of the block, you get in touch with me.

Feedback at personaldevelopmentunplugged.com and we’ll sort out things for you. That’s my email address, by the way. Just let me know.

But that’s not what I’m talking about, really, because we can get the goals, but I was getting my goals. But that unfulfilled feeling. It’s a little bit like getting somewhere and going, is that it? Is that all there is? And even started affecting me in looking at my life.

Is that all there is here? And what’s next? Because I can keep doing the same thing over again, but will it change this feeling? And you see that even affects our beliefs, isn’t it? We’ve got those limiting beliefs, even on those goals. But you know, that unfulfilled feeling begins to give you limiting beliefs. And a bit like, is that all there is? What’s is it worth it? And then about yourself? Maybe I’m not good enough.

Maybe I’ll just get it wrong. Maybe I’m a failure. And then the values that we hold so dearly sometimes start to get just rocked a little bit.

And that ultimately affects our identity, the identity that we we believe we have. But, and this is the but, so that was pretty down. But this is the but.

What if? What that lovely question? What if? What if the reason you keep setting goals isn’t because you need another goal? Oh, that’s different, isn’t it? I’ll say that again. With that wonderful question. What if the reason you keep setting goals isn’t because you need another goal? But because you’re looking for something goals were never designed to do? Have a think about that for the moment.

I’m going to give you a little bit of time to think about it anyway. Because on the deeper dive, the next episode, I’ll tell you what I discovered instead, because I found the answer. And I’ll take you through my personal journey, my adventure of of what happened.

And I’ll share with you, hopefully the things that get you thinking that, yeah, I can have that too. That resonates with me. I’ll come along with Cloughie.

Because this is a personal sharing. And I hope you hope it helps. Because you know, I want to support you in your dreams, your goals, your desires.

And all the things that maybe stop you getting them and all that. The process is stuff. But there’s also the deeper thing, the deeper thing that I discovered.

I think it’ll make a huge difference. So do press that subscribe button, follow button. So when then it’ll be next week, the next episode, when the next episode, the deeper dive, the hashtag, deeper dive comes along, it’ll come on your listening device, just like that, without you thinking.

And then we can have a wonderful conversation together. Because this is what these are all about now, having a conversation and sharing of things I’ve learned along the way. And hopefully, it’ll save you having to go through what I’ve gone through.

So I’ll see you next time on the deeper dive, or just have a think. I’ll just repeat that question one more time. What if the reason you keep setting goals isn’t because you need another goal? It’s because you’re looking for something goals were never designed to do.

That’s deep, isn’t it? Have a good think of that. And I’ll see you next time. Bye bye.

Time to fly my friend. Enjoy every heartbeat.

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