I Want My Old Me Back

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I just want the old me back”?

It’s something I’ve heard from clients for years. It’s something I said to myself too.

But what if that’s not what you really want?

What if the old you was part of the struggle… and what you’re really looking for is the real you?

In this Five Minute Quickie, I share a personal insight that changed how I think about personal growth, identity and lasting change.

The next deeper dive explores why you don’t need to become your old self again—you simply need to keep finding your way.

In this episode you’ll discover:

• Why so many people long for their “old self”
• The surprising problem with trying to go backwards
• A simple mindset shift that brings hope and stability
• Why your path naturally changes as you change
• A preview of the deeper hypnosis episode to come

If you’re feeling lost, stuck or disconnected from yourself, this episode is a gentle reminder that you’re not broken—you may simply be becoming.

Remember to share what you hear: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-537-i-want-my-old-me-back/

and there’s a video of me doing the recording https://youtu.be/L7S0uAc9bRU

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Paul

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And the transcript WARNING if you’re a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry – you have been warned – is it an ‘ism

Hey my friend, back for a five minute quickie, the seed of something I think you’re going to find interesting, but I also think is so important in this adventure of personal development, your personal development, you’re creating the best version of you. You see, this is what I’ve been thinking of. When we’re suffering, when we’re suffering issues, you know, anxiety, fear, depression, loneliness, anything you can think of, you know, self-sabotage, procrastination, you know, that every blooming OCD, anything you can think of, you fill in the blank.

When it hits us to get out, we’re looking for certainty, I guess. Everyone needs certainty. We need certainty and uncertainty.

But in that realm, we want certainty, stability. You know, I’m not going mad. I want to find a way out.

I certainly want to find a way out. You know, something I can hold on to, to lead me out. And I think that here’s something that I experienced so often.

When I work with clients, we talk about their issues. And I talk about what you want. And you might think they want, well, you know, I’m so anxious, depressed.

I want happiness. I want fulfillment. I want this.

And they do. But then they really just go, do you not pull? I just want my old self back. The old me, you know, because that’s stability, isn’t it? The old me, the old me that I can remember.

You see, I don’t know. That old me is something that you can remember with fondness, maybe. And we’re going to talk about that in a longer podcast somewhere else.

Why the disconnection? Maybe even on this longer, deeper dive, following this FMQ. But you see, another thing, a personal thing. In my life’s adventure, way back over there, I was in a big black hole.

And it was big and it was deep. And I was at the bottom of it. And I was doing all sorts of things to get myself out.

Because I knew a lot of different things. I was becoming my own therapist, day in, day out. It was literally day in, day out.

And what I used to say to people, I just want my old self back. The old Paul. If only I had the old Paul, I’d be okay.

And you see, during that time, I had a lot of help. Gave myself a lot of help. Looking for the old me.

So just like my clients. And then one day, one day, guess what? I had an aha moment. We have them occasionally, don’t we? An aha moment.

I didn’t want the old me. Why would I want that? I’d want the real me. Because the old me had, and was part of, those issues.

And the real me didn’t. The thing is, I had something came about in my head. Because whilst that seemed to give me some stability to let go of that and look for this real me, I realised something that changed my thoughts.

This constant looking for this, to me, a new identity. Whatever that was, the real me. Well, it wasn’t working.

And that’s where the deep dive comes in, in the next longer podcast. You see, I think it’s going to be really important when we go there. Because we’ll discover something that will give you that certainty, will give you that stability, something to hold on to.

And give you something as a foundation to let go of things such as that fear, that anxiety, that depression, that loneliness, the old whatever, you fill in the blank. But on this lovely, I call it a lovely adventure. But sometimes it’s, you know, adventures can be a little bit scary, can’t they? I want to share with you one thing.

And I’d like you to think about it before the dive. And this one thing is, and it’s like my second aha moment, when I’ve been sitting down with my puzzle book, and just thinking and trying to find a way, trying to find that certainty. I came up with this little sentence.

And it just makes me feel okay. And what I said was, I’m still finding my way. And my way changes as I change.

Say that again. I’m still finding my way. And my way changes as I change.

And that’s where I think the direction of this podcast is going to go. It’s how life changes as we change and how we can use these changes. And all the tools, I’m not forgetting all the tools, we’re going to go through the tools, the things to help you get rid of anxiety, fear, depression, loneliness, all that stuff.

But realise we’re finding our way. And when you’re certain you’re going to find your way, that’s when, well, there you go. Come with me on the longer podcast, the next one to follow this.

I might still call it, I want my old me back. I might call it something else, who knows in between. But come with me, it’ll be a longer, deeper dive.

It’ll have a process or two to really get into understanding and feeling and grasping hold of this way of changing. So you can look forward to a wonderful future, a wonderful life. You know, creating your dreams, because I’m here to support your dreams.

Support you in getting whatever you want, because I believe you’re entitled to it in this little old life. You’re entitled to dream and have those dreams come true. Providing, and there is always a providing.

And the proviso is this, as long as it’s good for you, the people around you, and little old planet Earth, because I want them economical. Economical? No. I want it good for the planet.

I want it good for the people around you. I want it good for you, because it makes sense then, doesn’t it? So do join me on the longer podcast. Please do share this with people, anybody you can think of, because everyone, even if you say to them, hey, how you doing? Yeah, I’m good.

I’m good. We are all suffering in some way, because we’re all changing. And changing gives you a little bit of a, you know, sometimes a little bit of uncertainty.

I don’t want to give you certainty. So even if they’re not saying that they have anxiety, fear, depression, loneliness, you fill in the blank. We all have something somewhere, don’t we? That we’re working through.

And this, I believe, will help you and help them. So do please share. Please press that subscribe button or follow button or whatever it is you have on your listening device of choice, because that means you won’t miss out.

It’ll come up on your feed and you go, yay, here comes Cloughie With. Yeah, just have a listen. And last upon last, and everyone tells you, don’t keep asking too many things, but this is the third one.

If there is anything that you’d like help with, if you are having any challenges, do email me. My email address is feedback at personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Do that, you get a personal request from me because I’m the only bugger here. And we’ll create an episode just for you.

And I say just for you, but what it means is everyone gets the benefit of, because we’re all suffering in some way, big, small, little, in the challenges that you have. We all have this very similar challenges, and we can transform the processes to deal with the ones that we have. Okay, please do that.

Let me know how you’re getting on. Give me some feedback. Tell me if I’m talking a load of old, you know what, or if there’s something you’d like me, you’d encourage me to talk more of.

Okay, have fun, because it’s time to fly. And I’ll see you back when you land on the longer podcast. Take it easy.

Bye-bye.